Survivor syndrome affects people who have faced a real threat of death and have a slim chance of surviving. It also affects children from families where abortions have taken place.
These are children who discovered at some point in their lives that their parents had murdered their siblings or contemplated suicide.
Agata Rusak, a psychotherapist, trainer, and supervisor, stated in an interview with Agnieszka Porzeziska, host of a TVP programme, that:
“It is very possible that we are living among a large number of people who have an excessive fear of life or for life, as well as the many other difficult consequences of having the freedom to choose whether or not to have a child. (…). A person who has chosen to live among other siblings frequently feels guilty about being alive, about how they live. ”
Survivor syndrome patients frequently fail to recognise that their abortion experience is the source of their lack of joy in life, sadness, or existential impotence. The more a child—or, later, an adult—realizes that his parents murdered or were willing to murder a sibling, the more emotional shock he experiences. The consequences of discovering that my parents murdered my siblings or planned to murder me are enormous.
- “Is the survivor syndrome detectable by any psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist?”.
“Obviously not. Some sufferers hide behind a sense of helplessness and blame their problems on their parents. The stigma of rejection is not a visible mark on the skin; it occurs deep within humanity. At the same time, the quality of family relationships in a child’s later years of life heavily influences the development of individual spheres. – In what sense? I have only mentioned a few of the many other symptoms of survivor syndrome.”says Agata.
The survivor’s syndrome can also be seen in the fact that the child—and later the adult—does not trust his parents and, as a result, cannot trust sincere people or, on the other hand, is naive to anyone who appears to offer him a little of what he had missed at home. As a result, he views God as an unpredictable Entity (or even Person) who cannot be trusted.
“If a child grows up hearing that he or she is unwanted, a nuisance, bad, that there is trouble at home because of him or her, that he or she is a failure, (…) Survivorship can manifest itself in a wide range of effects in life. Many people are sceptical of the existence of a distinct survivor syndrome. A child who is also an abortion survivor and grows up in a home where relationships are cared for in some way, for better or worse, will be psychologically healthier and will cope better with the world.
- Why is it so difficult for people who have had abortions to form positive relationships with their living children?”
“The surviving children are deeply lonely and have a difficult time forming the warm, trusting bonds that they crave. Rather than a unique, separate being developing at his or her own pace, a product of a wounded ‘Psyche’ (ENG: ‘Soul’ – redaction note). Some survivors of abortion fail to recognise that their distress is being caused by their abortion experience. (…)From the child’s point of view, every person with survivor syndrome requires a general life review that addresses the whole person, not just the individual broken parts.”
Because each person’s constellation of the effects of abortion on the family evolves over the course of a lifetime, a specific therapy for this syndrome would be ineffective. A broad examination of life as a whole, rather than just the individual broken pieces, is required. Abortion, or the desire to have one, is not the fault of a single individual.
Many people contribute to this drama, including those who did not instill in the woman the courage to become a mother, those who encouraged abortion, and those who did not stop the woman through passivity and silence. We are all responsible for the existence of life within and around us.